Mumbai: Cricketers Virat Kohli, Shikhar Dhawan, Yuvraj Singh, Robin Uthappa took to Instagram few days back to share a video where a little girl is sobbing as her mother hits and scolds her while teaching numbers.
The video instantly went viral and now it turns out, the little girl Haya is the niece of Bollywood music composer duo Sharib-Toshi Sabri, known for lending music in ‘Raaz: The Mystery Continues’, ‘Humpty Sharma Ki Dulhania’, ‘Housefull 3’ among several others.
Toshi Sabri has finally reacted to the viral video and, in an interview to Hindustan Times, has defended his sister’s actions in the video, “Virat Kohli and Shikhar Dhawan don’t know about us. Hamare bachche ke bare mein humein pata hai naah ki hamara bacha kaisa hai! Uska nature hai waisa… Agle hi pal woh khelne chali jaati hai. Agar aap usko chod do toh woh kahengi main mazzak kar rahi thi. Uske nature ki wajah se chod denge toh woh padai bhi nahi kar paayengi. (We know about our child better. Haya’s nature is such that after being scolded, the next minute she runs off to play. But, because of her nature if we don’t push her, she won’t study.)”
He added, “Woh video ek maa ka video hai, apne bhai aur husband ko dikhaane ke liye banaya tha, ki bachchi bahut ziddi ho gayi hai. (The video was made by the child’s mother, who wanted to show her brother and husband that how stubborn the girl has become).
The cricketers had also written lengthy captions for the video, calling it ‘disgraceful’, ‘disturbing’, ‘saddening’ and much more, and how that was not the way to raise children.
But Toshi says, “The homework she gets in nursery, of learning numbers, she’ll never be able to learn. Woh jo rona hota hain, woh us moment ke liye tha taaki uski maa use padaaye na aur khelne de. Chota bachcha hai 2.5-3 saal ka. (All the crying was for that moment so that her mother doesn’t make her study and let her play. Haya is just about 3 years old). It’s not a big issue. Har ghar mein bachon ki alag zidd hoti hai, alag-alag tareeke ke bachche hote hain. [Ye] bachchi bahut zyada ziddi hai [lekin] humari laadli hai. (In every house there are different kind of children. Ours is a very stubborn child but is extremely dear to us).”
He also added that his sister loves Haya a lot, and was upset about behaving in that manner with her, but a mother’s love should not be judged on the basis of a one-minute video alone.
He says, “Jab baaki logon ko bura lag raha [hai to] woh to maa hai (When other’s are feeling bad on seeing the video, then being a mother of course she’s upset too).”
“Ek maa ki mamta hai, judgment nahi kar sakte hain. Jisne usko 9 months kokh mein rakha hai. Ab agar bachche zidd karenge toh unko padana likhana chod dein kya? Bachon ko paalna asaan nahi hota. (One can’t judge a mother’s love for the child by seeing a short video. If children throw tantrums, then should we stop teaching them? It’s not easy to raise children).
I’m married and have a son. I know how difficult it is to raise a child. Parents have to do double duty by managing both — the children and the household at the same time,” adds Toshi.
The composer duo also shared a video on Instagram to say that people have been recognising Haya and her mother when she goes to play in the park and want to click selfies with her. They said that a 3-year-old girl should not be facing all of this at this age.