Men often forget the basic things during sex, rendering their partners unhappy. These are the major five mistakes committed by men at bed:
1- Not setting the scene
I realize that you aren’t necessarily a set designer, but seducing your woman will be a heck of a lot easier if your pad provides her with a comfortable and inviting atmosphere. That means no dirty laundry or empty pizza boxes on the floor, and no strange house guests on your couch.
So, tidy up a bit, dim the lights, put on some nice mood music, and pour her a glass of wine. Just make sure not to go overboard and turn your place into a Bond-like sex haven, with curtains that close with a remote, strategically angled lighting, and a mini-bar complete with ice machine built into the wall, or she will bolt before you can offer her a martini.
2- Skipping foreplay all the time
At one time or another, we’ve all experienced a moment so passionate that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable — and if you haven’t yet, you should. However, getting caught up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis.
Sometimes, she needs a little appetizer before the main course. Something as simple as a lustful caress, a sensual kiss or a suggestive whisper in her ear, followed by a come-hither look, can mean the difference between a night she will never forget and one she will want to forget as soon as possible.
3- Moving too fast
You practiced restraint during dinner when she was sitting across from you in that low-cut dress, giving you those eyes and flashing you that smile. You practiced restraint in the car on the way to your place, as her dress was hiking up ever so slightly, showing off her toned thighs. You even controlled yourself while you were sitting next to one another on your couch, and she was absent-mindedly touching your knee, and looking away whenever you caught her giving you that look. So, why blow it in bed?
Practicing restraint in bed will only get her hotter, making her want you even more, and will inevitably lead to a mind-blowing sexual experience for both of you. So learn to pace yourself and enjoy everything the moment has to offer. Trust me, you’ll both be happy you did.
4- Ignoring her body language
Although a woman may initially be too shy to tell you exactly what she wants in bed, her body languagewill give her away. It is up to you to pay attention to her telltale signs until she is comfortable enough with you to really open up verbally. So don’t treat her like a blow-up doll and have your way with her (unless, of course, she has specifically asked you to do so).
Try to notice how she responds to your touch and react accordingly. If you sense that she is tensing up when you touch her or try to move her body in a certain way, it could be that you are being too rough or that she is ticklish, so be more gentle. If, on the other hand, she seems completely unaffected by your caresses, it’s time to turn up the volume and shake things up a bit.
5- Wanting to try too many things at once
Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is force the issue too soon into the relationship. Doing so may blow your chances of her ever considering the idea again.
Try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but surely, starting with the tamer requests and working your way up to the racier ones. This way, there’s no telling how far you can go.