10 Signs That Your Co-Workers Secretly Hate You


While some coworkers may have no qualms about letting you know they despise you, others will try to remain diplomatic and professional but hide those hard feelings.

1. Your gut tells you they don’t like you.
If you feel like your coworkers don’t like you, it could just be in your head, but it could also be true. If they treat you differently than everyone else, you’re probably not their favorite person. Trust your gut and continue looking for other signs if you have a strong feeling about this.

2. They don’t smile when you’re around.
We’re not talking about the occasional bad day or mood swing. If your coworkers make a conscious effort not to smile when you’re in the room, something isn’t right.

3. They can’t maintain eye contact with you.
It’s difficult to look someone straight in the eye when you don’t like or respect them, says Taylor. If you notice your colleagues avoid eye contact while speaking with you, those are probably the reasons.

“They’re afraid that you may be able to detect hostility, so the path of least resistance is for them to look away or avoid being around you wherever possible,” Taylor suggests.

4. They avoid you.
If you notice that your coworkers take the stairs when they see you waiting for the elevator, or they wait until you return from the break room before they head in, those are good signs they’re avoiding you.

5. They feed the rumor mill.
This is childish and unprofessional behavior, but it happens in workplaces all the time: Someone doesn’t like you, so they spread rumors.

6. They don’t acknowledge your presence.
If your colleagues don’t say “Good morning” when you arrive or “Have a great night” on their way out, they may be telling you they don’t like you, says Taylor.

7. They’re short with you.
If you ask, “How’s it going?” and they always respond with “OK” or “Fine” — or if their emails always get straight to the point and never begin with a friendly “Hello” or “Good afternoon,” this may be a sign they’re not a huge fan of you.

“If they sound like a moody teenager, then that’s a pretty big red flag,” says Kerr.

8. They give off negative body language.
Whether it’s a subtle eye roll, constantly assuming a closed-off position with arms folded across their chest, or they don’t look up from their computer screen when you enter their office, your coworkers’ body language will often reveal their true feelings toward you, Kerr says.

9. They never invite you to social events.
If you never make the cut for lunch, happy hour, or project meetings over coffee, your coworkers may be trying to send you a message.

10. They communicate with you primarily via email, even though you sit close by.
If your coworkers don’t like you, they’ll probably try to limit their in-person communication with you. If you notice a shift toward more digital correspondence, that’s a sign.